Meeting the Birthmom & Tummy

Hello,
Friday (12/17) Mike and I went to Sarah's office (adoption director) to meet our birthmom, Charmaine.  Boy, I was nervous and excited.  I couldn't think straight and at times I felt I was literally beside myself.  But only about 15 minutes into the 3 hour meeting I began to regain my composure.  Sarah asked us all questions then we would take turns answering them.  Here are some of the questions:

• Tell me about your upbringing?
• What brought you to this place (adoption)?
• What is your faith like?
• What is your biggest fear?
• Are you certain about your decision about adoption (Charmaine)?
• What do you see the open adoption relationship like after the adoption papers have been signed?

There were a number of other questions, but this should be enough to give you an idea of what we spoke about.  After the meeting, Sarah told all 3 of us to go home, think about it, sleep on it and call her in the morning to let her know our decisions.  Then Sarah spoke one-on-one with Charmaine while we waited in the lobby.  After they met for about 10 minutes, Charmaine and Sarah came out and Charmaine told us that she is certain that we are the parents she wants for her baby.  Do I have to tell you how happy we were and are?  Let me tell you, I am so very thankful to God right now, because He had a plan for us and not only is He placing this baby in our hands, but also placing Charmaine in our lives.  God is good and we are so blessed.

Now, let me tell you all about Charmaine.  She is smart, sweet and has the kindest eyes I've ever seen.  I know this was a difficult decision for her, to say the least, but because she has made this decision it is obvious that she is unselfish, loves her baby more than herself and sees the big picture in life.  Charmaine is 6'1" (Mike LOVES that she is tall), blond hair, hazel eyes (they looked hazel to me), 27 years old and Caucasian.  The birthfather, Israel, is about 5'9", brown hair, brown eyes, 25 years old and Mexican.  We may not ever meet him, but we are good with that knowledge.  We look forward to a long relationship with Charmaine and can see a bright future for her, our baby and us.

We are going to try and get together this coming week with Charmaine and possibly meet her sons and mom.  But we definitely will see her on Dec. 29th.  She has warmly invited us to her last sonogram appointment.  Her doing that and bringing us the sonogram pictures shows us how kind and thoughtful she is. 

I could go on and on all day, but I'll stop...for now.  I will post more soon.

Love,
Brenda